Whether you are currently being bullied or have been bullied in the past, counselling may provide a safe space for you to talk, in private and without prejudice, about what is happening, how this makes you feel, and what choices you have.
The experience of harassment or emotional / psychological abuse may be the main concern for a client; it may also be a factor in the development of other issues. A recent study found that 72% of clients with concerns surrounding harassment and intimidation attended therapy with a different issue – depression and anxiety. Other common behaviours resulting from abuse and intimidation include:
- Social anxiety
- Low self-esteem
- Suicidal thoughts
Whoever you are, harassment can change your life. No matter what age, race, gender or religion you are, you may experience harassment at some point in your life. It is important that we know what options are available and to whom to turn.
Why do people bulling?
There are many reasons why someone may bully another person. It could be that they are dissatisfied with something in their own life and are taking it out on another person. They may feel powerless in other areas of their lives, and thus intimidate others creates a feeling of control. In some cases, the abuser is being (or has been) a victim of abuse or harassment.
It can even be by social approval and to not feel excluded. Whatever the reason, it is rarely simple. If you are bullying others, you may be worried about talking to someone for fear of trouble. But there are organizations that offer help to those who bully as well as the victim. If you need to talk to someone, help is available.
Talking to someone about bullying can help you understand why you are doing it and take steps to stop. If you are at school, try to talk to your teacher. If you are in employment, try talking to your manager or your human resources department. If you do not feel comfortable talking to someone you know, talking to a professional can help. Counselling provides a safe space for you to discuss your concerns without fear of being tried. Your psychotherapist will work with you to try to discover the reasons behind your behaviour and help you to stop bullying.
Author: Janet Moreno, B Sc Psych (Hons), Grad Dip AOD, M HRM, Associate Member ASORC.
Janet Moreno is a psychotherapist and rehabilitation counsellor with over 11 years of experience. She is fluent in both English and Spanish, and sees children, adults and couples. Find out more at her website: www.colibritherapy.com.au.
To make an enquiry or book an appointment with psychotherapist Janet Moreno, freecall 1800 877 924 today or book online.