The church community is not immune from conflict and internal politics.
Whether you have paid employment in a church organisation, or you volunteer in the role of an elder or pastoral carer, working in such an environment can be stressful and challenging.
Like any workplace, the clash of personalities, differences of opinions and of values, and poor communication skills can all play a part in creating and maintaining a negative work environment.
If you feel unable to express yourself honestly in a team environment, your expression of ideas, your creativity, your opportunities for achievement, even your sense of meaning, can all be stifled.
There is a way forward. By naming and acknowledging these experiences, along with revisiting your personal faith and identifying your own needs as an employee and as a person, you will find yourself possessing a greater sense of control and influence. Some areas for therapy may be as follows:
- Becoming aware of your preferred problem management style, and when this style fails you;
- Recognising if there are certain people you find you avoid, or alternatively those with whom you find yourself in conflict more often than you would like;
- Increasing your versatility as a communicator, which may include how you assert and maintain your own boundaries, as well as the time and attention you offer to others that is within your capacity.
By evolving in these areas, you can learn how to handle difficult people, and achieve a greater sense of focus and personal satisfaction in what you do.
Author: Naomi Griffin, BA (Psych & Music); Grad Dip in Pastoral Couns; PG Dip Psych; Grad Cert Case Management; Grad Cert Ed Studies (Career Development); STAP; MAPS; MCCOUNP.
Please Note: Naomi is not currently practising at Vision Psychology, but is continuing to provide supervision for provisional (including 4+2 and 5+1) and registered psychologists, and for ministry agents in the wider Christian community. If you would like information regarding supervision, or want to book an appointment with a Christian psychologist, please contact Reception on 1800 877 924.