As a European, it’s disheartening to witness the false shame surrounding body image in some societies. Growing up, we’re taught that our bodies are natural and unique, and there’s no reason for false shame. We learn the natural progression from being born naked to eventually returning to that state in death the same way. In between, there’s a celebration of our bodies, recognizing the inherent diversity that makes each individual uniquely interesting. This cultural perspective promotes acceptance and normalizes the human form, eliminating the need for ingrained shame.
Unfortunately, it seems that some have adopted a misguided sense of shame, perhaps influenced by a double standard found in certain cultural attitudes. The conflicting messages, such as the acceptance of premarital sex followed by the expectation of marital purity, or the notion that sex is solely for reproduction and should be approached with a sense of duty rather than joy.
That shift towards associating sex primarily with reproductive purposes, urging discretion and modesty, has led to a loss of the joy and freedom that should accompany intimate experiences. The notion of sex as a hidden, utilitarian act diminishes the passion and pleasure that can be integral to human connections.
This contrasts sharply with the European perspective, where the enjoyment of one’s body is celebrated. Sex is viewed not only as a reproductive act but also as a source of pleasure, connection, and fulfillment. The idea of sex being relegated to a mechanical, secretive, and somewhat joyless activity seems foreign and counterintuitive.
In Europe, there’s an appreciation for the fun and joy of physical intimacy. The emphasis is not just on the act itself but on the emotional connection, the exploration of desires, and the celebration of one’s sensuality. Feeling desirable, attractive, and sexy is considered a natural and positive aspect of human experience.
The concept of being secure and confident in one’s own skin is paramount. Body positivity is not just a trend; it’s a way of life. There’s an understanding that bodies change, age, and bear the marks of life, but that doesn’t diminish their worth or attractiveness. In fact, the experiences and stories that bodies carry make them even more interesting and beautiful.
The question arises: shouldn’t we aim to reclaim the feelings of desire, attractiveness, and sexiness that we naturally experience in our prime? The confidence that comes with feeling wanted and secure in our own skin is a vital component of overall well-being. It’s a call to rediscover the pleasure and satisfaction that can be derived from embracing our bodies and fostering genuine connections.
So, let’s challenge the false shame associated with body image and reclaim the joy that comes with celebrating our bodies. In doing so, we can foster a culture that appreciates and embraces the diverse beauty of the human body, encouraging confidence, desire, and fulfillment in our relationships. After all, the journey from birth to death is a canvas of experiences, and our bodies, in all their uniqueness, are an integral part of that remarkable tapestry.
Author: Manouche Lang, Medical Engineering, AD. Clinical Hypnotherapy, Psychotherapy & Counselling
Manouche demonstrates exceptional proficiency in managing workplace issues, guiding children, couples, and individuals seeking Hypnotherapy, Psychotherapy & Counselling.
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