What You Can Change, What You Can’t
by Martin Seligman
A fascinating read for laypeople interested in how our psyche works. It is well written with full descriptive explanations of the psychological aspects of what the author, Martin Seligman and others perceive as behavioural characteristics and their malleability.
Seligman goes into the many studies done on chemical dependencies, weight loss and other areas many would like to change in their personal behaviours. He also explains well how the nurture versus nature argument is being studied (the twin studies from Scandinavia are the most interesting).
The bottom line is that he posits that there are really just something we can change, and (contrary to some popular self help believers) some things can’t be changed.
I learnt so much from reading this, most of all, I learnt personal acceptance of me. I don’t have to ‘fix’ everything.
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